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This is very helpful information for the serious student of themselves and their own relationships. Appendix B from the book The DNA of. Wait and pass out The DNA of Relationships book until the end of the small group.? Have them read Chapters 1 and 2 for homework. 2. As an introduction. Understanding Relationships Part Two - How much DNA do we share v Shared autosomal DNA can be expressed in centiMorgans, which you will often.
The Fear Dance is functionally dysfunctional. Because the Fear Dance is the only dance many people know how to do, they "function" in the midst of dysfunction.
They adopt coping mechanisms, which often only deepen the problem. The external problem is rarely the real problem. In your own words, but from the other persons perspective, how would they say you react or cope when faced with dysfunction?
We can break the rhythm of the Fear Dance. By identifying our core fears and by understanding that the other person isn't the problem, we can begin to learn new dance steps to healthier relationships.
What reactions do you want to work on throughout this study? What should you do immediately after your buttons are pushed? Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, 24leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift. Settle matters quickly with your adversary who is taking you to court.
Do it while you are still with him on the way, or he may hand you over to the judge, and the judge may hand you over to the officer, and you may be thrown into prison. Matthew NIV Who do you need to forgive?
Who do you need to ask for forgiveness? Take control of your thoughts, feelings, and actions. You are part of the picture in every relationship, in every Fear Dance. You can choose to do something. Remember that your thoughts determine your feelings and actions. Circle the thoughts or words that best describe your frustrations in relationships: "You don't see it do you? Youre too negative and its driving me away!
Youll never change! Go out with your friends, see if I care!
Stay out all night, you like them better than me anyway. Gary Smalley You are in charge of how you react. End of discussion; its over. Take responsibility for your buttons.
You have a choice about how you react when someone pushes your fear button. No one controls how you react. You alone do that. You are in charge of your buttons.
In sentences, share a scenario where your buttons were pushed. Don't give others the power to control your feelings.
Focus on the right person. Personal responsibility means refusing to focus on what the other person has done. The only person you can change is yourself. You can stop the Fear Dance. You control whether you get stuck in the Fear Dance.
It takes only one person to stop the destructive dance. You can stop the fear dance. When conflict raises its ugly head, where do you place blame? Your spouse? What steps could you take to accept personal responsibility in your life?
Why do morphological phylogenies vary in quality? An investigation based on the comparative history of lizard clades. Mol Phylogenet Evol. Nucleic Acids Res. Dating of the human-ape splitting by a molecular clock of mitochondrial DNA. J Mol Evol. Conserved sequence motifs, alignment, and secondary structure for the third domain of animal 12S rRNA.
Mol Biol Evol. If you don't take care of yourself. Self-care is essential to all relationships. What words would you use to describe your physical health right now?
This great commandment indicates that we can love others only as we love ourselves. Why does loving ourselves sound selfish? What type of actions are your thoughts producing at home. What are your emotions telling you about your pace of life at this moment? Your emotions inform you about what you are feeling.
Self-care is not selfish. Listen to your emotions. When we take care of our whole selves--spiritually. Taking good care of yourself is one of the best things you can do for your family. We must love God above all and love others as we love ourselves. Identify some negative emotions you may have as a direct result of negative thinking. Identify your emotions.
Your emotions are your information system. Is your relationship with yourself healthy? Do you value yourself as God does? Write down three ways in which you can choose to honor God by honoring yourself. Receiving everything that happens as filtered by God. You can release your stress and find peace by: Reducing expectations. Good self-care involves receiving. Using every stressful experience as an opportunity to worship God.
Do you take enough time out for yourself? If not. What roadblocks might you encounter in freeing up this time? How will you handle them? Resting in God. You need to receive from others. Are your thoughts true as recorded in Scripture about trials. When listening. Or is your focus on you. Listen beyond the words to the feelings. Try saying statements like. The real message is often the emotion behind the words. Everyone should be quick to listen. People generally feel more understood.
Allow others' emotions to touch you. When we find ourselves disagreeing with someone. When you listen with your heart and listen for the heart of the other person. People feel loved when they know you truly understand their feelings. Is your goal to win. Your relationships will thrive if your priority is understanding the other person.
When you find yourself in an argument. Effective communication is a dynamic process of discovery that maintains energy in the relationship. Communication is understanding. Effective Communication starts with safety.
When you see communication as a dynamic process of discovery rather than one of solving problems. When you listen rather than judge or correct. In a couple of sentences. What relationships could benefit from your quest for understanding rather than problem-solving?
Effective communication takes work. Or is your goal unity and harmony? Good communication is not about proving yourself to be right. Put yourself aside.
Write down both points of view. When one person in a relationship loses.
How about your co-workers? Forget yourselves long enough to lend a helping hand. Make a list of the most common disagreements you experience in your most cherished relationships. Adopt a no-losers policy.
Winning is about both people feeling like winners. Then write a one sentence explanation as to why one opinion is better than the other.
A no-losers policy works toward mutual understanding and a win-win. If we see relationships as teamwork. Winning is finding a solution both people feel good about. Step 5: Select a win-win solution. Would you say that you work hard to see the issue from both sides?
Step 3: Ask God for his opinion. Step 6: Implement your solution. Winning is not compromise but a true sense of win-win. In healthy relationships. Step 2: Listen to how the other feels. Step 4: Brainstorm about a win-win solution. Seven steps to win-win solutions: Step 1: Establish a no-losers policy.
Step 7: Evaluate and rework your solution if necessary. Relationship Resources for Young Singles If you find yourself naturally hanging out with singles. Greg and Bob help these couples get to the heart of their differences and heal their wounds.
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To learn more. Look for these relationships resources: Find resources. Couples come to the marriage intensives with broken and failed marriages. Be proactive. God may be calling you to invest in their lives. If you are interested in helping people order their interior lives. Plan on leading a group in to deepen their trust in God.
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